We Learn To Love By Loving

“The splendor of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not rob the little violet of it’s scent nor the daisy of it’s simple charm. If every tiny flower wanted to be a rose spring would lose it’s loveliness.” || St. Thérèse

This quote is one of my favorites. I see it that God makes us each unique, that each of us have a vocation, but some of us are called to ‘big’ things and others ‘little’ things.  No ones role is any less important.  Some may be more noticed than other, but all are noticed by God.   Everyone of us is a thought of God.  All of our talents come from God, so whatever gifts we have are really His anyways.   So we shouldn’t be competing, but content because we are all God’s little flowers living in His garden reflecting His light and beauty to the world in our own creative way.  Our vocations are the greatest graces God has given us.  In them is our most sure path to love.

In my seven years as a wife and mother I have learned more about love than I did in my twenty-one years before marriage.  Not that I didn’t know what love was growing up, but that I’ve had to put my love into action more often with being married with children.  I’ve had to show my love more through sacrifice.

A lot of times I will think I’m being loving, but really just doing things where I only have to give the smallest amount of me.  Thankfully God’s grace floods in and I realize I really wasn’t loving in that moment.  Learning to love is a process.

“You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; and just so, you learn to love by loving. All those who think to learn in any other way deceive themselves.” -St. Francis de Sales

Is there an area in your vocation where you aren’t loving well? Do not despair.  Say a quick prayer, “Next time I will love better God , but only with your help. You must put Your Love in me!” and then begin again.  And do not doubt that your vocation is the most sure way to love.  Surrender yourself more and more each day, lean into that and do it with your whole heart.  Don’t worry if it is ‘big’ or ‘little’ just remember that God is your audience and he sees you.  God began a good work in you and He will bring your love to completion if we keep letting Him teach us how to love.











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  1. Hayley,

    I was so excited to see a new post by you today! Your thoughts are really beautiful, and they really brightened my day. I hope you have a wonderful birthday later this week. Your family celebrates your birth as a special creation of the Lord Jesus. We love you, miss you, and look forward to seeing all of you this summer.

    Love, Dad

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