“Do not judge the bereaved mother.
She comes in many forms.
She is breathing, but she is dying.
She may look young, but inside she has become ancient.
She smiles, but her heart sobs.
She walks, she talks, she cooks, she cleans, she works, she is, but she is not, all at once.
She is here, but part of her is elsewhere for eternity.”
Grieving the loss of a child, whether it be through miscarriage, stillbirth, sudden infant death (SIDS) or other causes is extremely difficult. Many grieving parents don’t speak up about how hard it is to lose a child, not because they don’t want to, but because society seems to say that you can only grieve for so long.
“Grief lasts longer than sympathy, which is one of the tragedies of the grieving.” – Elizabeth McCracken
In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan declared the month of October to be National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. Yes, a whole month dedicated to remembering all the little lives lost too soon is a huge comfort to grieving parents. It makes parents feel they are never alone in their grief. And in 2002, a Day of Rememberance for Pregnancy and Infant Loss was proclaimed to be celebrated on October 15th (many people light a candle for the little lives lost). Every child is a light to this world and should be honored and remembered no matter how short their life was.
So this October reach out to those that you know have lost a child. Comfort them with a little note and let them know that their child is remembered and not forgotten. From my own personal experience, I can say this is a great comfort. If you’d like to read more about my loss you can find it here: Remembering Those Gone Too Soon.